If I could start all over again, some 23 years ago, when I took my first steps into the world of personal development and raising my consciousness, there are some things I wish I could have known in advance. It would have saved me years of confusion.
I wish I had known…
- …that there is no right or true path. The grass is no greener on the other side of the fence. There is simply that path I am on, until I change and then I am on another path. I will never know what it would be like to have taken a different route so it’s better to enjoy the one I am on.
- …that it is all right to question my teachers, and that is a higher level of consciousness than simply accepting everything they say, regardless of whether it makes sense or not. It is my life and I need to find my truth, whatever it takes. One day the questions will become so loud that I will not be able to ignore them any more. It’s better to start asking them sooner rather than later.
- …that theory does not carry much weight in the world of consciousness. Who I am is so much more important than what I know. Having my mind full of words and philosophy actually gets in the way, so keep it simple.
- …that solutions are more valuable than answers. Knowing how to solve a problem is not much use unless I actually solve it. There are too many people with all the answers and none of the action.
- …that people will criticise me and judge me if I take action. They will think they know more than me – and that might be true. But as long as they are just watching and not taking action themselves it doesn’t matter what they think. In a game of football the fans stay clean and the players get muddy. But only the players score goals.
- …how to ask for help.
- …that we are all completely different and there is no need to be envious of the people who have extraordinary visions, wild energy experiences or see auras.
- …that I can never run away from myself, however hard I try. And that no job, relationship or money will save me from myself.
- …that I cannot do everything and I am going to have to make choices.
- …that being horrible to myself was no better than being horrible to other people and that I really wouldn’t make any progress until I started to love myself.
Behind every one of these is a story that was painful and lasted a lot longer than it needed to. Of course I learned a lot, and maybe I wouldn’t have listened even if I had been warned. But I hope that by sharing my experience I can make it easier for the next generation so they can move forward more quickly.